Valentine's Day comes on the same date every year and inevitably I'm never emotionally prepared for it. Last year I spent the day preparing small surprises for a man who didn't care but had the decency to say thank you. I'm not sure that you can truly consider someone your valentine if you are emphatically not theirs. I have since dropped that dead weight but I am facing my 29th Valentine's Day without a true valentine yet again. I guess I cannot say that truthfully because for 29 years my mother has always been my valentine.
Of course when I was little she would help me pick out the coolest valentine's to give to my classmates and she would always get me some candy or other little pink & red gifts to make me feel special. Even in high school she would tuck a little valentine in my coat pocket or book bag just to show she cared. I remember thinking how lame that was because other girls in my class had real valentine's because they had boyfriends who would get them flowers or cheap jewelry and take them out to dinner. Thinking back on it now I didn't even realize how lucky I was. I had someone that loved me and was willing to show it in the simplest way. Isn't that the whole point of the day is to show love? Even to this day she still gets me a little bag filled with strawberry creme hearts because she knows they are my favorite and I always look forward to that. I usually get her a little gift as well because I do love her and because I know my father will forget. He's always dropped the ball in the romance department but that story deserves it's own separate post.
Many people say that Valentine's Day is simply a commercial holiday where "the man" plays on our emotions to get us to buy things especially when many of us are still broke from maxing out our credit cards during Christmas 7 weeks ago. I would agree with that statement we really don't need to spend a lot of money to show love to people who should already know that we love them by showing them love through our actions on a daily basis; however, watching half the women in your office get roses while your desk is left with an empty space stings a little. I don't need a relationship to validate my existence but dang it's nice to have a man buy you stuff!
There is always someone who has it worse than me whether they are in poor physical health or currently unemployed while I am in good health and have a job that I really like. When I start to think poor me I try to think of those people who really have something to complain about. Valentine's Day should be a fun day because it celebrates love and you don't have to be in a romantic relationship to show love. I love seeing all the pink & red flowers, the balloons, & candy that floods the aisles of the stores. Fortunately I have a job so I can afford to indulge in buying myself some of those items and it puts a smile on my face and that's exactly what I did this weekend. I will wear red to work that day because it's festive and I think it's fun. I will also make sure to focus on showing love & kindness to others that day that may have no one else in their lives to do that and I have a feeling I won't be miserable or feel lonely at all.
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